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What Better Time To Love Yourself?

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I fully plan to open my entire heart for this post. This is a message a lot of people need to hear so I really want to deliver it as such.

Sometimes we get so caught up in our own lives of being patients, of being mothers, of being friends and caregivers, we forget the most important person in our lives: ourselves. It’s not enough to just say you love yourself. – You have to do it. You have to show it, live it and believe it. When I was first diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis, I have to admit, I did not love myself. Although I was young, I hadn’t loved myself in a very long time. It’s hard to watch your health decline. Slowly becoming someone you don’t even recognize anymore and still manage to love yourself. – Especially when you’re young and really haven’t figured out who exactly it is that you even are!

Self love is the source of all other love.

A young black girl in a very pale world with a schizophrenic mother, no father and now – a disease with no cure. – Does that sound like someone who would ever make it anywhere in life? Right, I didn’t think so either. I constantly brought myself down. Mentally and physically. I didn’t take care of my body and I did enough negative self talk to qualify for a lead role in being my own worst enemy.

It took me a very long time to learn to love myself; in-fact, I’m actually still learning. We spend so much of our lives giving love. Depriving ourselves of the love and attention we actually need. We must learn to invest in ourselves the way we invest in others.

What Is Self Love

You deserve love. No, I don’t mean romantically. I mean you deserve to be loved by the most beautiful person in your life: yourself. There is not a man, nor child in this world worth more than you. Don’t allow yourself to wallow or sit in sadness this Valentines Day. Whether you’re single or married this applies to you. This year, make a vow to love yourself. To do for yourself. To put yourself first. Allow yourself to be selfish. People associate “selfish” to such a negative connotation, but sometimes it’s okay.

Self Love on Valentines Day

If you’re single this season I have a Special Message For You. This is your season. Your season for growth. Your season for change. Your season to become the best you. Everything will work out in your favor, you have to have a little faith and for now, don’t worry about what the next person is doing. Focus on building your empire so that when a king (or queen) does come along, you’ll be ready.

Thanks so much for reading! Before you go, let me know what you’ve been doing this year to better yourself. It can be anything! Bubble baths or books! Let me know in the comments below.

 

 

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Comments

  1. Hi, Shawn! You are a beautiful intelligent girl. I wish that I had your wisdom at 25. I’ve had to learn these things in my 50’s. You go girl!

  2. Just discovered your blog advertised over on the Dorkface blog and just wanted to say I’m excited to catch up with your posts!

    This year I’m trying to make better choices when it comes to eating food (I won’t be eating salad for every meal though, not gonna lie haha) and exercise more. I’ve recently taken up a Clubbercise class every Friday night and I feel SO good after every class! I wish I did it sooner.

    Melissa x
    http://www.memoriesandmishapsblog.wordpress.com

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Though mostly about IBD, this blog covers a wide array of issues.  Shawn covers complex issues, like how her identity as an African American intersects with her IBD.  I am taken aback by the depth of each post! Whether you’re a blogger or an IBDer, her posts are sure to offer tons of inspiration.   Collin, Jan. 9, 2019