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Don’t Allow Toxic People To Steal Your Joy, But Here’s Something For When They Do

Someone in my life decided they were so upset with me that they would let me know that I am nothing, or in their words, “irrelevant.” My work is nothing and no one cares about me. The list of things they said goes on and on, but I won’t dwell on that.

The funny thing about toxic people is they don’t care who they hurt. They don’t care what they say or to whom they say it to. Toxic people are constantly in search of ways to bring others down because of their own insecurities. Toxic people look to others in order to deflect and prevent them from looking at themselves. No matter how much you do for a toxic person, they will always acknowledge what you didn’t. A toxic person will hold on to what you don’t do and dwell on the negative.

5 Things To Do When A Toxic Person Attempts To Steal Your Joy

Truth is we’re all a little toxic. None of us are perfect. We all have our issues. I never claimed to be perfect. My life is certainly far from it. I don’t expect anyone else to be perfect, but I do understand what I do and do not deserve in a person (and life).

Has A Toxic Person Recently Stollen Your Joy?

If they have you’ve come to the right place! Initially I was going to simply name this “Don’t Allow Toxic People To Steal Your Joy.” – Although fitting, it’s not realistic. Realistically there will be times when someone steals your joy. Certain people will try and succeed at making you feel bad about yourself. It’s okay. You’re human. You can’t control anyone else, but you can take a handle over the situation so it won’t steal too much of your happiness.

When Toxic People Steal Your Joy

5 Things To Do When A Toxic Person Attempts To Steal Your Joy

  1. Analyze the relationship: Is this person important to you? Does their opinion matter? Is this worth fixing? Can you live life without them?
  2. Remove Yourself: If possible, try to remove yourself from the situation. You may just need space, air and time to think.
  3. Remove them from your life: If removing yourself doesn’t work and you find yourself in an unhealthy relationship, (whether it’s with a significant other, family member or friend), at times it can be best to cut ties completely. As painful as it may be, no one is worth (risking or losing) your mental health.
  4. Focus on yourself: Losing people isn’t always a bad thing. You can now invest the time and effort that you once invested in them, into loving yourself. If you need ideas on how to invest in yourself, try checking out the tips in Simple Ways To Feel Better.
  5. Consider Therapy: Therapy can be a good way to clear your mind and rid a bit of anxiety related to the situation. I’ve found therapy beneficial in the past and I highly recommend it for anyone.

Comments

  1. This was amazingly well written advice and I want to thank you for sharing! I do tend to allow toxic people into my life, but I am trying to eliminate them one at a time! I am looking forward to reading more of your fabulous advice. I hope if you have the time you will check out my site, I do aim to encourage and inspire others through the words I write!

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